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My Five Tips to Improve Self-Confidence Today

Are you someone who struggles with self-confidence?  I have struggled with it for a majority of my life until finally one day I said enough is enough.  I need to do something to improve this or I'm never going to live up to my full potential.  I believe a lack of self confidence stems from fear of the unknown.  We all have fears, but if we spend our lives avoiding getting past them there won't be much room to grow or succeed.  I thought I would share my top 5 tips to help improve your confidence level today!

1.  Give yourself positive affirmations DAILY.  

For example:
     1.  I am a great spouse
     2.  I am a great parent
     3.  I am a great motivator
     4.  I am an honest and hardworking business owner/employee
     5.  I attract all positive and good into my life

Get the point?  Speak LIFE into yourself on a daily basis. You are beautifully and wonderfully made!

2.  Do something today that will make you uncomfortable

For example, if you are fearful of failing at a nutrition or fitness plan, join a group of positive supportive people who are succeeding in this area of life.  Commit to a huge goal that is going to make you push hard each day to reach.  I'll never forget the day my husband encouraged me to compete in my first bikini competition.  I was so hesitant, because I had no idea what to completely expect and as much as I prepared for it, I was still nervous as can be walking on that stage.... annnnd you could tell.  My Mom even told me I looked like a deer in the headlights up there, LOL. But you know what?  I faced a fear and I was so happy I did, because it opened a whole new path in my life.  

3.  Create a mantra 

This will give you empowerment in moments of doubt.  For example, mine is:

I will always listen to my heart and have faith as small as a mustard seed.  God is in control of my life and has great plans in store for my family and I.  When I start to put other people or things before God and my family, I will remember that my time can never be given back to them.  I will trust the time I spend with others is enough as well as appreciated and valued.  I am a good leader and truly care about the success of others.  I will courageously walk the path God has chosen for me and let my light shine bright before others.  

What would your mantra look like?

4.  Surround yourself with confident individuals

Did you ever hear the saying, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with"?  Well it's true!  So evaluate those people and if they are Debbie downers, then it is time to start making some new positive and confident friends.  People who make you feel valuable and their excitement around you is genuine.

5.  Politely end conversations that diminish your confidence

We all have those friends or family members who say things that are hurtful or that diminish our confidence.  Most of the time they don't even realize what they are doing.  If this is something you experience and it really bothers you, SPEAK UP!  Let's say your Mom is on the phone with you and she brings up the fact that you still haven't found a serious boyfriend at 29.  You can simply say, "You know Mom, I'm just not comfortable talking about this.  I just want to keep things positive.  I love you and I will talk to you soon.  Gotta run and finish up dinner."  Doing this each time someone brings up a topic that crushes your confidence will eventually give the other person the hint and they will stop bringing it up.

Remember, confidence is like a muscle.  The more you use it, the stronger it gets!

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